how to discover your authentic self.

Here is a brief summary of the transcript: The transcript is a motivational speech about finding yourself and achieving your dreams. The key points made are: - Start with identifying your dreams and passions, then work backwards to figure out the steps to achieve them. Choose a career path that will provide the money needed for your dreams. - In college, build a large network of friends who can help you get jobs later. Use personal projects and skills to stand out in interviews. - Take on challenges and adventures to build character and confidence. Signing up for a fight can reveal your true self. - Find alone time for self-reflection. Turn off distractions and write down your thoughts. - Don't worry about judgment from others. Be your authentic self. - Find a craft or creative endeavor to hone your skills and express yourself. Write daily to tap into your creativity. - Discipline leads to freedom. Stick to a schedule, train hard, and create daily. Going from amateur to pro is key for achieving dreams. The main message is to know yourself, follow your passions relentlessly, build your character through challenge, and have the discipline to turn pro and make your dreams happen.

Speaker A: I just want to make a video on my story that I know for a fact will help others out there in their journey. Whether you're a freshman in college, whether you've already graduated, you know, whether you're maybe three years into the workforce, etcetera. I know that this video will be applicable and useful to someone out there. All right, welcome to the channel, everyone. This video is how to triple your salary as an engineer in five and a half years. So I do a lot of driving on this channel. I'm an engineer, mechanical engineer. I've been in the workforce for six years out of school, and I never really had a mentor growing up. And it was only until I got one mentor for a year at my one job that it really helped me out with my career and kind of changed my trajectory and my forks in the road. And this is my, like, giving back. You know, I don't really think anyone can. You know, people can do everything on their own, but when you have a guide. Let's go this way. So, like, driving cars, I'm an engineer. Um, I got into mechanical engineering because I led cars, and I thought I'd work at some factory, like, Porsche factory, one day. But, you know, I ended up going into defense contracting. So I just want to make a video on my story that I know for a fact will help others out there in their journey. Whether you're a freshman in college, whether you've already graduated, you know, whether you're maybe three years into the workforce, etcetera. I know that this video will be applicable and useful to someone out there. So I'm just gonna hop from this, go from the. From the jump to start, whatever we're gonna go over, like negotiating strategy, career strategy. A lot of career strategy is gonna be in this video as an engineer, because I want you guys to maximize your earning potential. Money isn't everything, but money makes your life easier, okay? So I'm not here to sell you some fucking book, you know, watch out, squirrel. But I just wanna give back. You know, I wish I had this video when I was younger and, you know, had this advice, and I know how powerful that this advice can be to people out there, especially with those with no, you know, dads, moms, friends, mentors, etcetera. So this is my story. It may not, probably will not be 100% accurate to your life, but it will. There will be a Venn diagram here. Okay. So I pretty much started out undergrad. This is in America, by the way. Mexico. Started out undergrad. Wanted to be pre med, wanted to be a surgeon. Figured out I wanted to do that for the money, not for any reason. So I switched over to engineering, did undergrad engineering for mechanical engineering, and then was hard as shit. You're going to have no life. It's like, pick three, sleep, social or grades. Sorry, pick two, sleep, social, grades. So pretty much I just did grades and sleep. Never really partied in school. That wasn't my lifestyle. I'd recommend first, starting with your goals. Like figure out what your. I don't want to use the word goals. Start with a dream. Okay. What I like to ask people, oh, what are your dreams? And they'll be like, oh, I don't know, that's so far off. Like, think to yourself, like, if you could wave a magic wand today, what would that look like? Are you living in Europe? Are you driving a Porsche? Like, I went into engineering cause I wanted to buy these cool fucking cars and it helped me fucking get there, you know? Right now I own three porsches, a few motorcycles, etc, etc. And like this job and career path undoubtedly helped me get there and acquire these things. Now this is my hobby. I didn't buy this to flex on people. I just fucking love porsches and driving and I couldn't give a shit what other people think. So let's get out of the way. So maybe you're, you're, you know, wave of magic wand and maybe you want to have a family. You know, wife, kid, I don't know. You know, kids are very expensive. They require money. So are wives and houses and everything else in America these days. So, you know, maybe you want to retire at the age of 40 or 30 or. I don't know. So what I would recommend is starting with your dream and then working backwards. So for me, my dream was to buy a few porsches and have a motorsport style, lifestyle and hobby and be able to afford that stuff. You know, if I could get hit in the head with a rock and just begin to running, all I would have to buy are tennis shoes and a water bottle. Like not these hundred thousand dollar fucking cars. But, you know, here we are, so. So I went into mechanical engineering. The first thing I recommend you guys do in undergrad, make as many friends as possible. Like make sure that you have a large friend group. You don't have to have like concrete, super tight friends, but just make friends. Just be nice to people because you never know when one day when you're gonna like need to call that person for recommendation or a job. Like, here's a great example. I was in one class at my undergrad, and there was this guy named Vinny. And I did homework with Vinny once in one of my classes, and we just went, hey, man, let's do a project together. Is this knockout on a Friday? Yada, yada. We did it, done, had a nice time. Two years later, Vinny was working at this defense contract company, and he goes, yo, Chad, like, I know you're only working one, you know, one class your last semester, would you be interested in taking over my internship? And I said, sure. So not only did I get, you know, a lead for an internship, but I got a referral from an inside person. So here's one thing I'm gonna tell you, you know, off the bat, if you can get an inside referral to a job from someone, you know at that job, you're automatically getting an interview. So you're already skipping the line because someone at that place of employment is referring you if you want to work at SpaceX and your friend and goes, yo, my friend John is referring me to SpaceX. Well, you're gonna get that interview. You know, let me back up some more here. When you, when you go to graduate undergrad, getting your first job sucks. Okay? You're gonna apply to a hundred fucking jobs. And you might get, like, don't quote me on this shit, like, like ten responses back. And on the ten responses back, maybe you get like, five interviews. And the five interviews, you get, like, one job offer. The point is, like, you're not gonna apply to 100 jobs and get 100 interviews and 100 job offers. It just. It's just not how it works. Like, no one knows who you are. So it's a huge numbers game. There's gonna be people out there who are gonna have a very little self confidence where they're gonna apply to a job. You're gonna get turned away and like, oh, nobody wants me. And, you know, blah, blah. Like, no, it's just not. It's just a fucking numbers game, you know? Keep fucking at it. Once you get your first job, your entire career set, good to go. Because now you have references at a real fucking engineering job. Okay? I'm trying to make this video and have a good time myself.

Speaker B: So.

Speaker A: This guy hates me. We're gonna get quiet by his house. I don't think anyone's home. Alright? So make as many friends as possible. Undergrad, they don't have to be, again, tight friends. Just make friends in undergrad, you never know. We're gonna have to use them later. Add them all on LinkedIn, et cetera. You know, try to do, like, groups, study sessions. Do not be lone wolf in undergrad. It will not help you out unless you're a fucking savant. You know what? I don't want to even make a qualifier on this, because one of you guys out there saying, oh, I'm a folk. And, no, just make friends, okay? Pick an industry that has money. So, you know, if you want to. For me, I knew defense contracting in America. It's a $1.1 trillion budgeted, you know, thing a year. Like, that's where a lot of money is. I'm not selling out to defense contracting. And, like, the war machine, it's like, look, like my one vote in America is not gonna overcome, you know, trillions of dollars of crap. So just go where the money is. If the money is in SpaceX, go work at SpaceX, etcetera. So I know that defense contractors make a lot of fucking money. They have great lifestyles. And I know for me, if I want to have my hobbies, I need money. If I want to live, I need money. If I want to travel, I need money. If I want to help my friends out, I need money. If I want to build a house, I need money. Like, it's just. It's the lubrication of society, just the way it is. If you want to pay off your student loans, any money, if you want to be stressed out, you need money. So here we are. So I got the in at for my first internship at this company, company a. We'll start with that. And small defense contractor, and, you know, got the interview. So here's my another piece of advice. When you go for your first interview, bring a laptop. Bring a little laptop, you know, because we're going to do it is you're going to have your resume and they're going to be, oh, tell us about yourself. Rather than tell about yourself, you're going to show about yourself. You're going to have a laptop with a PowerPoint.

Speaker B: No.

Speaker A: Got to go crazy. You're going to have pictures of things you've done. Maybe it's your senior Capstone project. Maybe it's a side business you work on, you know, for me, what I did, I. I published. Hey, like, I. At the time, I was like, I don't know, ten year, maybe, like, seven year mechanic where I worked on porsches. You know, I do all my own oil changes, my transmission drops, whatever, you know. You know, you guys today, you know, people who are graduating in 2024, you guys are fucking smart. Like, you're very savvy. Like, you can say, oh, like, I do solidworks and I made little widgets here and there or whatever. Whatever you do on the side, show that you've applied your engineering skills, whether it's software, computer, electrical or mechanical, outside of school somewhere, even if it's in school, that's fine, but just show a way that you applied your engineering skills in your life. So for me, I built like a, like a, like a tire rack in my garage to hold all my race wheels. I designed it in CAD. First I went to Home Depot and I built it and then I hung it up. So it was like, I prototyped it in CAD. I built it with my fucking hands and then it hung it up and then it fucking worked. Sick. I showed up on my fucking PowerPoint. Amazing. Additionally, if you don't have Solidworks experience out there, you can download like Fusion 360 or Solidworks student version for free. And I'm gonna put a link in the description of the video below. It's called like Verit. It's like vertinox one. So this guy will take you from zero to a b minus. Install works okay. And it can be step by step literal hand holding you on how to use solidworks and make, like, engineering designs. Okay, you're gonna go take screenshots of those designs and then put them in your PowerPoint. You're gonna put screenshots of, you know, thing, you know, things you've made or in class, in capstone or whatever it is, and put it in your PowerPoint. Now, rather than talk about what you've done, you can talk and show what you've done. Thirdly, you're gonna be the only person at this interview who's brought a laptop to an internship interview. Like, they're like, wow, this guy is so. Or girl, whatever is so prepared. And once this job so bad, they brought a laptop. And if you get the fucking Amazon clicker, dude, game over. Game over. I brought the Amazon clicker to my interview and I showed myself, you know, who is chat? Oh, make a slide on who you are. What's your personality like? People want to work with people that.

Speaker B: Only in the darkest hours can a man uncover his true character. I've spent periods of my life avoiding pain, avoiding struggle, running towards comfort, and never felt fulfilled. And then I've been so pleasantly surprised by giving myself challenges, by signing up for martial arts, by signing up for competitive fights, which I've won and I've lost. But every time I've done that period of discipline, every time I've pushed myself further than I possibly could. When I've had the darkest days, the darkest hours, the biggest problems in my life, there's a seed of hope that I've found inside of those hours that gives you all the fulfillment that you need. When you look at yourself in the mirror and you've dealt with something hard the right way, even though it was painful, and you start to walk a little bit taller, you start to be a little bit prouder. So if you want to find yourself, you need challenge, you need to go on an adventure, and you need to push yourself to the limit. And I think the easiest way to do that as a man is to sign up for a competitive fight. Because fights are not about the physical. They are about controlling the mental. They are about understanding if you are the person that you say you are. And this can become a very difficult thing to deal with for me, as you will have seen in the intro, this video, and I can show you again now, I lost a fight that I put my all into in my training up to that fight, my first professional fight, I live streamed it. I had it go out to my whole audience, and I lost that fight. And I had to deal with the fact that I was not as good as I thought I was. And it allowed me to learn more about myself, and it allowed me to deal with a new set of problems and become stronger inside and show that I could deal with a loss. And that tested my character, it tested who I was, and it actually made me more fulfilled. And I will come back and have another fight, hopefully before the end of this year, but we'll see what happens there. I've also won fights before. I had a fight, an MMA fight, which I can bring up now, that I won by submission, rear naked choke in the second round, and the feelings from that, you then have this huge surge of confidence that you can use to take steps in other areas of your life. And these are both very important lessons. So if you have not done it so far and you want to understand yourself and you want to become authentic, to be yourself and be authentic, you have to have the ability to protect yourself, because you have to be able to protect your opinions and your values and your views towards other people. Lesson number six in finding yourself is solitude. You cannot find yourself surrounded by the noise and clutter of other people. You have to find yourself alone. I say to people, if you find yourself never being able to stay alone, that's when you need it most. And if you find yourself never wanting to meet other people. That's probably when you should go and see your friends. Because there's introverted and extroverted personalities. So the extrovert needs more time alone that he naturally won't get because he always wants to be around other people. And the introvert actually needs to see other people for new ideas and fresh inspiration. As long as they're the right guys. When you take solitude, there's a few ways you have to do this. You can't look at your phone. You can't have entertainment. That's not solitude. That's distraction. You can't have music. I would recommend you spend an hour alone in your room with no distractions, no phone. You spend an hour thinking, just thinking and seeing what comes into your mind. And you write some things down on a piece of paper and you start to discover what you really want, what your mind wants to when you are left alone. And solitude, for me, is one of the most beautiful things. I think men that want to create something, you have to take time away from the people around you. You have to find your core. You have to find who you truly are before you can build a team around you. You have to become very solid and knowing what you actually want. Lesson number seven is something that I've learned over time by becoming progressively crazier and crazier and posting more content and just doing my thing and realizing that nobody gives a fuck what you do. Nobody cares. Because we all are inherently selfish and we just think about ourselves the majority of the time. So I used to get very, very concerned when I was first going out into the social media world that everyone was going to judge me or what my friends going to think. And the thing is, people do not care anywhere near as much as you think. Some people view that as a bad thing. And for me personally, I find that very liberating because I know I could do pretty much anything and everyone forget about it in a week's time. Life, if you look at it, is incredibly short. And to spend any time not going after what you truly want, I believe is a waste. Because you really can do anything you put your mind to. If another human could do it, then you could also do it. And that's what I think. Maybe I'm crazy, but for me, it has served me very well. And that started by just letting go of judgment, by understanding people don't care and testing the things you want to test and running towards fear, being scared and having fear. The things I was scared of most through my journey through my life so far have always been the things that have turned into the most beautiful moments in my life that have led to growth. So if you're worried right now about being your authentic self, just remember that nobody really cares. And when you try and be someone else, people can tell. I'm not afraid to be who I am. I'm not afraid to talk about my past. I'm not afraid that occasionally I'm a degenerate and I don't need to be perfect, because none of us are. And anyone that says that they are is lying to you and they're covering things up. And I think we can all tell that. So when you find someone authentic, when they just live how they want to live and they don't pass judgments on others, I find it to be a very endearing thing. So just make sure whatever quirks you have, enjoy them. Because when I became the person that I am today, and I started talking how I wanted to talk and I didn't copy anyone else, and I got inspiration from others about their discipline and things that they do, but I just became who I was and interested in what I do. And the more I lean into that, the more successful I become. And the more people like me and the more I try and be somebody else, the more it backfires in my face. So I think that's really all you need to know in terms of becoming comfortable in yourself, is that it's your biggest superpower. The quirks that you have personally will take you all the way if you can just learn to express them. Lesson number eight is to find a purpose, to find a craft, to hone, to find something, to put your time into something that you can productively work on day in and day out, and allow some of your creativity to bleed through, to trust the internal creator, to trust what you're given when you write down on a piece of paper and something comes out of your mind, to trust that it is the right thing to do. One of the best ways I've found to do this, I've read a book called the Artist's Way by Julia Cameron and she recommends three pages a morning. Writing every day. As Stephen King had a favourite line he used to say was that I only write when inspiration strikes. Luckily, it strikes at 09:00 a.m. every morning. And that's what these three pages are. They're three pages of creative flow, of any blabble that wants to come out of your mouth or out of your mind and onto paper. And what you find by just doing that consistently is that you start to find your inner eye. Now, what I would recommend is you have a skill or some sort of craft, a creative endeavor. It could even be a hobby, a YouTube video like this one. This was a creative endeavor for me. This is something I've really enjoyed making and building. I built it all myself. I've done all the editing, all the, all the shots with a bit of help from my team, and we put this thing together with the music we wanted, and that was just an inner expression of what I want to say and what I want to do and honing my craft. And I find that to be incredibly powerful because you have to listen to yourself and you have to know who you are to get that creativity out. And it helps you get closer to your core. And it's just all about trusting that maybe you will have a good idea, that the ideas, the good ones don't come from you anyway. I believe in universal intelligence, that your ideas come from the cosmos and that you just wire into them that you are infinitely more intelligent than you think you are, because you can access information that you don't even know about. And you'll find that often with writers, they can write about experiences that they haven't had. They can write characters that are smarter than them. And that's because we can draw creative inspiration far more powerful than ourselves. And I believe everything truly comes down to art. What humans like, and the reason we buy products and the reasons we like people. And the thing that really speaks to our soul is art. And art is an expression of the human experience, of the pain that we all feel. And showing that to people across any realm, whether it be a blog or an email list that you write, or some text on your website, or a video that you make, dialing into your art is a massive part of discovering who you are. And it's one of the most beautiful journeys, in my opinion, and will help you in business. And lesson number nine, which actually my final lesson that I've learned so far, is that the true freedom comes from discipline. That we don't actually want to be able to do whatever we want all the time. And discipline is the key to our soul. The happiest times in my life have been times of extreme discipline. Times when I look back and think, wow, how the hell did I make it through that? How did I stick to that schedule? And you become proud of yourself. And when you become proud of yourself, you start to listen to yourself more, you start to treat yourself better, you start to understand who you truly are. So I would recommend, just as a starter. You wake up at the same time every day. You train really fucking hard. You go and do martial arts, and you create something on a daily basis, whether it's in your business, whether it's a sales call, a blog post or an email or an Instagram story. You work hard, you set a schedule, and you stick to it over a long enough period of time to feel self growth. And there's a great quote, again from turning pro by Stephen Pressfield when he talks about going from amateur to pro. The majority of people in life are amateurs. They never take anything seriously, they can never stick to a plan, and they never achieve their dreams. And he talks about what it was like for him when he turned pro. And turning pro is just taking life seriously, essentially. That year made me a pro. It gave me, the first time in my life, an uninterrupted stretch of month after month that was mine alone that nobody knew about but me. When I was truly productive, truly facing my demons, and truly working my shit. That year has stuck with me. The hero wanders. The hero suffers. The hero returns. You are that hero.